Community – The Needs’ Year (Week 2)
My life in community “Who in the collective house would you most like to eat?” We were sitting around one of the tables in the dining hall engaged in a conversation. We stuck to the adult community members and most of us chose one of the young women from...
Acceptance – The Needs’ Year (Week 1)
It started with goosebumps on the forearms. Soon the whole arms began to tremble and the trembling eventually turned into shaking and spread to the shoulders and the upper body. It lasted for about 20 minutes and then began to subside. In the end, it was just like an...
Introduction to needs
Intro In this blog post, I will mainly reflect on needs from the perspective of us humans. My thoughts about needs are based on my understanding of what Marshall B. Rosenberg – the founder of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) – has written about needs....
Our biased mind
In the beginning of my NVC experience When I started learning NVC, I was very passionate. At last, I had discovered a way to communicate where connection and the needs of everyone matter. I could both listen with empathy to what was important to others as well...
The four NVC steps in practice
The four NVC steps The four steps of Nonviolent Communication (known also as four components) help us to consciously use words in order to clearly express what we want. Using the four steps increases the chance of establishing contact and mutual understanding. They...
Free from a guilt trip, at least a bit… An example of one mother
Flavours of parenting Parenting can have different flavours. Sometimes sweet, and let’s have it this way most often, sometimes bitter, difficult to swallow. Working with parents, and being one too, shows us that there are some moments when we do things...
How can anger enrich you and your relations
For some of us anger can be seen as an information that there is something wrong with us, with others or with the whole situation. In some cultures there are different beliefs about anger or “angry people”. For example that “nice girls should not get angry” or that...
Marshall B. Rosenberg – creator of Nonviolent Communication
Marshall B. Rosenberg If it were not for Marshall B. Rosenberg, there would be no Nonviolent Communication (NVC) – or at least not in the form we know and not under that name. It is thanks to him that people all over the world take responsibility for...